The in-between isn't empty time. It's the actual work. It's where everything you've been moving toward is forming, and it requires you to be present with it instead of skipping to the part where you understand it and have what you desire. Grief shows up here, and you can't outrun it by getting busy.

You've gotten good at holding it together, at scheduling your grief for a more convenient time that never comes. I want to tell you to stop performing composure and just feel it. Scream, cry, lie on the floor — whatever it is. Grief moves faster when you actually let it through. Here's what I mean.