I gave notice on a Monday. By Tuesday, I was already building the case for why I should take it back. Here's what I finally understood about the fear that floods in right after a real decision: it isn't a verdict telling you you were wrong. It's the feeling of your life actually changing.

I struggled with philosophy in college, and, at the time, it felt like a personal failing. I'm a 4/6 profile in Human Design, built to learn by living first, not by reading. The texts are coming back to me now, and I don't think that's me being late. I think it's me being right on time.

Whether or not to leave generally shows up as a feeling first. Different feelings point in different directions, but there are some clear indicators that it’s time to make a change. Here's how I tell them apart, and the one move you can make now to find out which one you've got.

You keep turning the same situation over, sure there's one more thing to find in it. There isn't. The closure you're waiting for would have to come from someone who was never going to give it, which means you're the one who has to make the ending. Here's how I think about letting go when no one hands you permission.