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Some Endings You Have to Write Yourself
The closure you're waiting for isn't coming. Not in the shape you want it. What keeps you in the loop isn't missing information, it's loyalty to an old version of you who is still standing in the waiting room. You don't have to keep waiting. Some endings you create yourself, and that one is available now.
If It Comes Too Soon, You Won't Be Ready
The in-between isn't empty time. It's the actual work. It's where everything you've been moving toward is forming, and it requires you to be present with it instead of skipping to the part where you understand it and have what you desire. Grief shows up here, and you can't outrun it by getting busy.
What Does It Take For You To Live Your Dream
The hemming and hawing feels like being careful. It isn't. It's the thing keeping you stuck, and the longer you do it the more reasonable it feels. I think your dream is worth being loud about — and worth being a little delusional in pursuit of. Here's what it takes to actually go after it.
Everyone I Know is Burnt Out Right Now
Every woman I talk to right now is burnt out. Not tired — depleted in a way that doesn't lift with a good night's sleep. And I think a lot of us have half-decided it means something's wrong with us. It doesn't. Here's what I've had to remember about being this tired, and why you're allowed to stop pushing.
Fear Is An Advisor. Inspiration Gets The Final Say.
When inspiration hits, you forget to be afraid — you're too busy creating to hear anything else. Then the fire winds down to embers, and that's exactly when fear clears its throat and starts asking if you're really sure. I want to show you why fear gets a voice but never the final say.
Scream and Cry If You Need To
You've gotten good at holding it together, at scheduling your grief for a more convenient time that never comes. I want to tell you to stop performing composure and just feel it. Scream, cry, lie on the floor — whatever it is. Grief moves faster when you actually let it through. Here's what I mean.