There's a kind of spiritual membership built to keep you inside it — daily challenge, monthly challenge, use the tools, or else. And I get why it works. But somewhere in there, people stop healing and start depending. I've watched it happen. I've done it myself. Here's what I think we've gotten wrong about doing the work.

It felt like a breath of fresh air to walk away from tech and put myself on platforms like Substack and Threads, where, at the time, I thought my depth, curiosity, and ability to read the undercurrents would be celebrated. But what I've noticed is it’s just more of the same.

The closure you're waiting for isn't coming. Not in the shape you want it. What keeps you in the loop isn't missing information, it's loyalty to an old version of you who is still standing in the waiting room. You don't have to keep waiting. Some endings you create yourself, and that one is available now.

The in-between isn't empty time. It's the actual work. It's where everything you've been moving toward is forming, and it requires you to be present with it instead of skipping to the part where you understand it and have what you desire. Grief shows up here, and you can't outrun it by getting busy.

The hemming and hawing feels like being careful. It isn't. It's the thing keeping you stuck, and the longer you do it the more reasonable it feels. I think your dream is worth being loud about — and worth being a little delusional in pursuit of. Here's what it takes to actually go after it.

Every woman I talk to right now is burnt out. Not tired — depleted in a way that doesn't lift with a good night's sleep. And I think a lot of us have half-decided it means something's wrong with us. It doesn't. Here's what I've had to remember about being this tired, and why you're allowed to stop pushing.